5 New Year’s Resolutions for Couples
It's amazing how many people commit to bettering themselves going into the new year. Not sure if this is the 28th post about resolutions or not, but we'd like to persuade you to make a better you for a better marriage going into the new year.
Here are a couple of ideas for you and your spouse to talk about:
1. Focus on your Friendship
This will always be at the top of our list because research has proven that couples who focus on their friendship stay together! Stop what you are doing and pencil 2 or 3 date nights for January in your calendar. Don't just go to the movies, but plan a date night where you can connect. Talk about your dreams, inspirations, goals, and fears. Where do you see yourself in 10 years, 20 years? What was your favorite memory when you were dating? What was your high or low through the day? What was your favorite memory from the last 12 months? (If you need help coming up with conversation starters, make sure to pick up a copy of our book 365 Connecting Questions for Couples.)
2. Have More Sex
Seems obvious, but couples who are having hot sex are happier, healthier and less stressed. Need more ideas? You’ll find a ton of helpful posts here on our blog.
3. The 60 Second Blessing
This was the most life changing habit we have incorporated into our marriage. Because we know that words have the power to give life or cause pain, this simple and quick exercise will quickly put your marriage on each others radar. You take turns expressing your love and appreciation for one another - it's that simple. You can read more about it here and watch a video of how we practice this habit.
4. Turn off the TV - twice a week
We know, we know, this is hard for some of you, but watching TV next to each other does not count as spending quality time together. Turn off the tube and spend time connecting and asking questions like these.
5. Listen more
We all are guilty of listening to respond rather than to understand the heart of our spouse and we live in a world where we often try to fix, minimize, judge and ignore what people say. So make it a goal to listen when your spouse is speaking to you. Spend time validating what they’re sharing with you and watch the intimacy in your marriage grow once again.
Commit to one of these for the month of January. Put it on your calendar, have a friend hold you accountable, and post it on your refrigerator. If you're up for the challenge, commit for the entire year!
Written by Meygan Caston
Meygan Caston is the co-founder of Marriage365 and lives in sunny Southern California with her husband Casey, their two children and dog Hobie. She loves her family, the beach, writing, spa days and helping couples connect in their marriage. Her life long dream is to live with the Amish for a month, walk the Camino and have lunch with Brené Brown.